Not being good at dating can be almost deadly! I know it is a big statement and I do think it’s fundamentally true.
Let’s unfold this for a moment.
How important it is to breath? Kinda dumb question to ask, right? It is very important because if you stop you die. It’s not like you have a choice here, it happens naturally, and you can’t just stop because again you will die.
Then what about hygiene? Well, it might be not as important as breathing but still very important. You definitely won’t die on the spot by doing some unhygienic things. At least if you don’t do something super dumb like exposing yourself to terribly dirty place where a large verity of disease lives. You want to have good knowledge and skills to have cleanliness, so you live in healthy condition. Not having good hygiene mean you will be sick a lot and your life spam won’t be as long as it could be. Very important right?
Now, how does this all tie to dating and relationships you may ask.
If you don’t breathe, you die.
If you don’t maintain good hygiene, you attract diseases and get ill easily.
If you aren’t competent at dating, you will be miserable and mentally sensitive.
Why is that?
Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and well-being. There is compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to extended, flourishing, and joyful life. Conversely, the potential health risks from being alone or isolated in one’s social life are comparable to the risks associated with cigarette smoking, elevated blood pressure and obesity.
And it isn’t ending there!
Say you don’t have any proper relationships and don’t date, just like how it was for me until I was 26 and a half.
The maybe even more terrible problem is dealing with in the moment experience where you approach your day to day life.
You go to the supermarket. You observe happy couples holding hands and kissing. It’s genuinely a lovely thing. Not for you. Because it evokes your misery and your lack of dating life or relationships.
OK, so it is clear that being outside isn’t so fun anymore because couples are everywhere.
Well, it is possible you intentionally try to stay home, as much as possible to avoid your conscious mind to go nuts. You know how brutal your creative mind can be. “you’re loser ugly piece of garbage, you will never be loved,” Your self-sabotage mechanism says again. Or some vision of that same similar nasty words you heard time and time again.
Staying comfortably at home isn’t the best solution either. If you are going to typically to spend lots of time watching movies and be browsing the web. You most definitely are going seeing more couples or females that you has loved to date.
It is possible the innovative solution is to meditate all day and stare at the wall. But that’s no life to enjoy.
If all that sounds terrible, then you can be reasonably sure that this a reality for many men (and women as well in a different ways).
That was my experience until I properly handled my dating life!
This is why I naturally became a dating coach. To assist others who are in this dark
My key message for you over here is that wherever you are you can undoubtedly change! Most of my life I gave up and had no belief that I can do something about the whole thing. But the moment I sincerely committed to change, marvelous things started to happen instantly!