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When you don’t know exactly what you want, you won’t have a specific plan on how to get there. Just like if you are at point A in your city, and you don’t have an idea where point B is, you will never get there. You will be randomly cruising without a destination.
If you want laser sharp focus results on getting what you want, you need to first define what that is. If you say; “I just what a hot girl” what does that mean to you? What does that even mean? Everybody has a different definition of a hot girl. Everybody has a different definition of the type of personality they want in a girl.
You might say; “but I don’t know what I want” OK, if you don’t, start thinking about what you want, at least think what you think you want, and start there. If you won’t figure out what you want, you’ll never achieve that. And then you’ll continue being frustrated.
Okay so here’s what you need to do exactly as specify as you possibly can. What type of girl do you want? write specify; is she educated not educated, is she thin or issue more athletic build, what hobbies does she have what are her political views, what is her background, what ethnicity is she, what city does she live in? Etc.….
Now, if you’re not in a place where you can find those type of girls and your goal is to meet those type of girls get yourself to a place where those girls exist.
In order to get you perfect 10, ask yourself what does that girl value? You must have confidence in what you want. Let’s say that you are a like rocker type guy, and you want like the super preppy type girl. Well, maybe you have to change, maybe you don’t, but at least you should know that what you’re doing is not congruent with that aim. Now you may get her on pure value, you may get her with a good skill, but at least know that you aren’t directing your efforts in a focused manner towards that particular girl you want. Because the things that she has grown up valuing, the things she’s likely to gravitate towards are not necessarily the things that you are bringing to the table.
For example say that you want really sporty girl, but you weighed 300 pounds and it’s not 300 pounds of muscle. Well, you may have to get in the gym in order to get those girls. Not because of a value of like an overweight thing, but because of their value system. It’s what they’re into and if you have a common hobby with them things are going to get a lot easier, and a lot better.
If you don’t have that common hobby they might view you being out of shape as a lack of discipline, lack of ambition, lack of commonality etc. etc.…
The point is you’re not fitting in with their inherent perception of what they’re looking for in a guy, so you’re making your job significantly harder.
OK, so you need to figure this stuff out. If you want tall models, you will need to do your research. There are some cities that have lots of models in them, which would increase your chances to meet the one you want. I’m not saying you have to uproot yourself and change your whole job necessarily to get those type of girls. But I am saying if you have a choice between moving for your job to a city where though they exist in a city, compare to where they don’t, you will increase your possibilities by moving to the city where your type of girl exists.
Think ahead, right strategy beats tactics any day of the week. If you have great skill but you’re putting yourself in no situation to meet the type of girls you’re into, you’re actually probably going to do worse than a guy with like mediocre skill that is constantly surrounded by the type of girls he wants.
Planning ahead is one of the smartest action for your success. It is going to be that plan. What I suggest is you make the most detailed list you possibly can, even get it down to like hair color, eye color, height, etc… I want you to get as specific as you possibly can and have that idea in your head because by having that idea you’re actually going to achieve it.
Something funny is going to happen once you do this, you will start getting the type of girls that you thought you wanted, and you’re gonna find out that’s not actually the type of girls that you wanted after all. And that’s a good thing because that’s going to help you to adjust your model. As you adjust your model, you’re gonna get better and better results. And you’re gonna hone in more and more on exactly the type of girl you want.
Now how do I know that this process of constantly honing in on what you actually want is what’s going to happen for you? It’s because that’s what happened to me and every single person I know who ever got good at dating.
Today when meeting girls that I do want, I develop great relationship with them. It helped that I did that other stuff first, it helped that I got it out of my system. By getting it out of my system, I figured out that’s not what I wanted.
This days, when I am in a positive relationship (with confidence) I’m not thinking oh maybe the grass is greener over there. I’m thinking; I got into this with my eyes wide open and I know exactly what I want, exactly what I need, and exactly what makes me happy. So even if that process of honing in and defining what you want doesn’t get you there right away, it is a process and it will get you there eventually.
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